It’s really tough to be sick and it’s hard for someone to ask for help, as it’s difficult to admit that you’re having trouble handling your affairs. And yet there are times when friends and loved ones face illnesses and treatments that are so difficult or draining, that it’s hard for them to cope. Here are some things you might offer to do when someone you care about is sick:

1. Offer to bring lunch or dinner. Home cooked meals are always appreciated but if you are not up to cooking, ask if they have a favorite food outlet and something specific they like to order. Then you place the order, pick it up, and deliver.

2. Be specific in extending an offer. Or, if you issue a blanket, “What can I do to help,” be prepared to do whatever is requested.

3. Friends or family members can only take so much time off from work for appointments. Offer transportation and companionship for treatments or physician appointments. It might even take the edge off the day with a stop for coffee or lunch.

4. Friends or loved ones might not have the time or the energy to shop for needed items. You can handle the transaction or, ask them to contact the store, make the transaction, and you pick it up.

5. Ask if they would like you to pick up an item (or items) each time you do your own grocery shopping, whether it’s a rotisserie chicken or milk. Or, call before running your own errands to see if they need anything at the stores you plan to visit.

If you’re still having a hard time figuring out how you can help, ask.  A little guidance from friends and loved ones will give you the satisfaction of providing help that is needed and appreciated.