I’m sitting at my desk, sorting through papers when I see the name of a friend at the top of a list. My friend had surgery and she’s been undergoing chemotherapy for the past two months. I periodically send a card or call just to say hello but I realize this morning that it’s been a few weeks since I’ve checked in.

I made the call and had a nice chat. I learned that my friend is very uncomfortable and is really just whiling away the days with little energy to pursue her normal routine. That’s where the cards and calls help. She mentioned she gets a card now and then and she appreciates that someone has taken the time to let her know they’re thinking of her. I tell myself to stop feeling guilty and make a plan to send a card next week.

Cards and notes are easy to send and you don’t have to worry about disturbing someone as you may do with a phone call. Emails are great for keeping in touch but there is something special about receiving a card or note in the mail.

Don’t spend too much time worrying about what to say. A simple “I wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you” goes a long way in making someone feel cared for. You can add “Book club or bridge isn’t the same without you” or “I miss crossing paths on my morning walks and look forward to seeing you soon.”  Your thoughtfulness will go a long way in brightening someone’s day.