Ask Robbie

My colleague has had a miscarriage.  She was married last September, her Dad died in October and Uncle also passed away in February. How can I help?

Your colleague has experienced difficult losses. How you choose to support her will depend on your relationship. One of the best things you can do for her is to listen. Even if she tells the same story over and over again, be patient; this is how we grieve and make sense of our losses. You can offer to treat her to lunch and be prepared to just listen; or, do the same for coffee or breakfast on the week-end. She might feel supported if you offer to bring her and her family dinner one evening. It is very comforting to know that others are thinking of you; any time you can let her know that, she will be appreciative.