I find it's often helpful to put things in perspective. If you view the process as an expression of your care, you'll find it's not that complicated if you speak from the heart. Take the time to jot down how you are feeling and then draft a condolence note that expresses your thoughts.
Are you feeling sad over the loss of a friend’s dad? Has your aunt been in your thoughts since you heard of your uncle’s death? Do you have a special memory that always comes to mind that you can share? Will you be reaching out through a visit or phone call?
The very best messages of sympathy convey your caring thoughts. If you take the time to explore your feelings and then express them, you’ll craft a sympathy note that is sure to comfort.