And no matter the circumstances, it’s crucial to communicate, despite your comfort level. Death and any loss are very isolating and staying away compounds the loss.
But what should you do when you’re truly at a loss for words? What do you say?
When bereaved myself, I saw a neighbor. She gave me a hug and said, “This must be such a difficult time. I don’t know what to say.” But she said it all; she validated what was happening in my life, let me know she cared by approaching and hugging me, and was honest in her feelings. And what she said and did was right on target.
I encourage everyone to reach out to someone facing a death, illness, or difficult time so individuals don’t face even more isolation. It’s okay to let someone know, “I don’t know what to say.” In reaching out, your actions speak volumes. You’re saying, “I know this is a difficult time and I care.” And that says a lot.