Here are some tips on belated condolence notes:
- Whether you just learned of a death or procrastinated for months, don’t be afraid to reach out.
- Begin your sympathy message with an expression of how you are feeling. For example: “I just wanted you to know that Susan is often in my thoughts and I remember her with love, as I know you do."
- Follow with additional thoughts, a personal story or memory of the deceased, and your expression of sympathy.
- The bereaved will be grieving for a long time and your thoughtfulness and care will help in the healing process.
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