I asked Joan to share what she wished folks had said so we could learn how to better communicate with a grieving spouse. Joan reminded me that we each grieve differently and statements that she liked might not work as well with others. These are her heartfelt suggestions.
1. “Tell me about him.”
With people who didn’t know him or barely knew him, this is a wonderful opening for me to talk about him.
2. “I miss him, too.”
From people who did know him, this is the perfect thing to say.
3. “Here’s what I loved about him” or “Here’s something special he did that I’ll always remember.”
How beautiful to add to my memories of him during this time.
Joan also advised that it is never too late to share thoughts or memories. Memories are what remain and they're truly appreciated.